In our previous article, we mentioned three out of seven steps that we can do on a daily basis to make our tomorrow a better, more joyful and meaningful one. Now, we are going to share with you the remaining four steps that can propel you towards growth and a life you wan. You would be amazed how these simple steps can start transforming your life, day in and out, without you realizing it.
Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. ~ Charles R. Swindoll
Throughout history, there were many who made a difference, those who went the distance, and those who made an impact in people’s lives. We are often inspired to be like them; and thus followed in their footsteps, and want to succeed like them. Some succeeded and some failed. Which do you fall into? Which would you want to become? Our Master Trainers, Dr. Billy Kueek and Lim Kit Wan constantly mention:, There’s a structure and/or a system in every magic.
Nothing is impossible, it is impossible merely because we do not know how.
We have created and outlined 7 simple steps that you could follow and start doing daily to make a difference in your life, as well as impact the lives of people around you. We will share with you the first three steps geared to fortify you mentally and spiritually. Read More
Sorry Leaders, but today is just not your day. We will celebrate your day another time.
Today is EMPLOYEE APPRECIATION DAY! And it is important that you, as a leader, take some time and effort to show a little appreciation for your employees for all that they have done to propel the organisation forward.
In a recent study, 45% of the the people working in Singapore are unhappy in their job. 54% are disengaged, and 12% would choose to leave their job because they felt unappreciated at work.
With the need to constantly stay competitive in the industry, organisations are finding innovative ways to create a positive working environment and engage employees on a regular basis. Evidence has shown that when people are happy working in a job that they find meaningful and are appreciated for their contributions, it would result in higher productivity, enhanced creativity and better problem solving ability. At the same time, employees feel more connected with the company, thus reducing employee turnover.
Do you still remember when you were a small kid and making friends was as easy as ABC? We could easily go up to another kid, start playing with each other and have lots of fun!
At this age, do you feel like it’s so tough to connect with another person? Do you feel awkward and uneasy when surrounded with strangers? Do you struggle to make a conversation with someone you just met? When a stranger says “Hi” to you, how do you respond? Do you say “Hi” back, or you start to wonder if this person has any ulterior motive for chatting you up?
I remember this incident very clearly.
A new family moved into my block on the 10th level. One day, as I took the lift down, the door opened on the 10th level and this new Caucasian neighbour walked in.
Neighbour: “Hi, how’s your day?”
Me: “Hey, it’s been great so far. Hope it gets even better. How’s yours?”
Door opened on 9th level and a middle-aged chinese lady walked in.
Neighbour: “Hi how’s your day?”
Lady completely ignored him and stared straight at the lift door, with her back to the guy. Guy turned to face me again and shrugged, completely puzzled. There was an awkward silence in the lift. When we reached the 1st level, the lady walked out immediately.
Neighbour: “I guess people here aren’t too used to receiving friendly greetings.”
Me: “We could have continued our conversation but I guess the atmosphere just now was a little awkward. Haha. Say ‘Hi” to me again next time, I’ll respond!”
We wished each other well for the day and parted ways.
What happen to being friendly? What made us start to doubt a sincere greeting & shun away from wishing each other well?
When was the last time you made a new friend?
When was the last time you tried connecting to someone new?
Make a new friend today!
Are you a Master of Assumption, where you:
– Assume your partner, lover, or friends ignore you because of what you said?
– Assume people are angry at you when they do not reply or answer you?
– Assume your partner, lover, or friends thinks you are a burden when you regularly text or call them?
– Assume your partner or lover do not love you when they do not talk to you or reply you after “X” number of hours?
– Assume partner, lover, or friends are stressed and upset because of you?
Are you a Master of Judgement, where you:
– Believe that you can never find the one while others have?
– Think you are always the one at fault when you are not?
– Judge yourself way more harshly in terms of your appearance?
– Believe other people uses you because they love you and need you?
– Consider yourself the ONLY one who can do the work or tasks given?
Are you a Master of Negativity, who thinks:
– I am not good enough, therefore I did not get that job. It must be my fault.
– I cannot do it because I do not think I am capable enough.
– I can never accomplish what he/she have. I am not that smart.
– I am a failure.
– I do not know how to speak confidently so I rather keep quiet.
– I am afraid that people will reject me so I do not initiate or ask.
– Nervous, fidgety and anxious is my name and I can never get rid of them.
You know there is a deadline, but only rushed to complete it the night before
You have a messy room that needs to be cleaned or organized, or clothes/dishes to be washed but never got to them.
You want to reduce your weight, but you are too lazy, unmotivated or tired to work out.
You want to eat healthily, but it is a hassle to start making home-cooked food.
You want to ask someone out on a date, but do not have the courage to do so.
You always wanted to go on a vacation, but never had the time to do so.
You want to spend time with your family and friends, but you are just so busy.
“There are 365 days in a year. I have plenty of time to do what I want to do.
Even if I do not complete it today, there is always tomorrow.”
Many people say this to comfort themselves when they put off things they know they are supposed to do. Avoidance in completing a task or activity is something everyone is familiar with and guilty of doing it at least once in their lifetime. This is PROCRASTINATION.
Time to Say Goodbye to Others (just for a little while) & Hello to Yourself (here to stay)
Self-Love is not Selfish.
Loving yourself more is not Selfish.
Putting yourself first is not Selfish.
Doing things you love, having fun and enjoying them is not Selfish.
Pay more importance to your own feelings is not Selfish.
Taking possession of your own happiness is not Selfish.
What you decide and choose as a priority is not Selfish.
Saying No is not Selfish.
Breaking other people heart with the intention to protect your own is not Selfish.
Taking time to repair and maintain yourself is not Selfish.
Treating oneself with pampering and kindness is not Selfish.
Somehow you will know when to start being “Selfish”.
Somehow you will know when to be “Selfish”.
Somehow you will know when not to be “Selfish”.
Somehow you will know when you have to be “Selfish”.
Have a time or moment that is just about you and not others.
Be responsible to yourself.
Take good care of yourself above all others.
Live the life you want it to be, and not how others told you to.
Appreciate life and its beauty.
Right now, what is stopping you from having it?
At this moment…
What is making you think you cannot do it?
What is that fear that surrounds you?
What is it that you want?
If you never make yourself your top priority,
how can you expect anyone else to do it for you?
If you would like to join us on a transformational journey, please call us at +65 8388 0500 (Singapore) or +6012 434 9500/+6012 649 6500 (Malaysia), drop us a message, or email Office@BillyKueek.com.
*Side Note: This article is not suggesting that you should disregard other people’s feelings, break the rules, or be a total narcissistic, unethical, unlikable and rude human being. There is a fine line of loving and doing things for yourself to being a total jerk and too being self-centered person.
“The better you know yourself, the better is your relationship with the rest of the world.”
~ Toni Collette
Values are as important and valuable as the back bone that holds us up and keeps us in place to do the things that we love. Values are considered one of the most principal motivating push that individuals need to drive them into taking action with their lives. Values are slowly formed at a very young age through our interaction with our environment and experiences.
What are the values you value most in your life? Does your values drive your inner motivation? Does your values create liberating beliefs that push you out of your comfort zone to do what you really want to do in life, or get what you want in life?
What is it that you want to be that you are not becoming?
“… I’m marveling… is he angry at me? Why is he not replying?
Does he not love me anymore…”
“… I am not good enough. I am not worthy.
I am the reason why people are leaving me…”
“… I know in my heart that this is just a small matter but this feeling keeps kicking in. This feeling makes me question stuff…
it is starting to grow stronger and it is affecting my daily life…”
“… Even when things seem wonderful, calm and peaceful…
I am always waiting, thinking and sensing that something horrible is going to happen…
I hate this feeling…”
Does this seem familiar?
Does it resonate with you?
Does this feel like you … or anyone you know?