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Are You Ready to Face Your Inner Demon?

By | Change, Coaching, Food for thought, NLP, Personal Development

Stick to what you see best.
Stick to what you hear best.
Stick to what you do and know best.

Stick to what you see best.
Stick to what you hear best.
Stick to what you do and know best.

I believe you have heard these advice, many times, when you are growing up. They may come from your family, friends, teachers, colleagues and/or even strangers to encourage you when you are facing challenges in your life. These words may sound motivating and reassuring that you are accomplishing something awesome now. It may signify that you are looking after yourself well.

These advice can cut both ways, good and bad. When you are safe in your comfort zone, it is easy to just fixate on this ONE thing that you are great at. This may create a limitation that stops you from exploring the unknown. When you limit yourself, you miss out on possible opportunities that could bring you more fun, adventure and success.

And what happens when this ONE thing that you are best at comes crashing down?

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7 Simple Daily Steps to Making a Difference (Part 2)

By | Change, Coaching, Food for thought, NLP, Personal Development

In our previous article, we mentioned three out of seven steps that we can do on a daily basis to make our tomorrow a better, more joyful and meaningful one. Now, we are going to share with you the remaining four steps that can propel you towards growth and a life you wan. You would be amazed how these simple steps can start transforming your life, day in and out, without you realizing it.

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7 Simple Daily Steps to Making a Difference (Part 1)

By | Change, Coaching, Food for thought, NLP, Personal Development

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. ~ Charles R. Swindoll

Throughout history, there were many who made a difference, those who went the distance, and those who made an impact in people’s lives. We are often inspired to be like them; and thus followed in their footsteps, and want to succeed like them. Some succeeded and some failed. Which do you fall into? Which would you want to become? Our Master Trainers, Dr. Billy Kueek and Lim Kit Wan constantly mention:, There’s a structure and/or a system in every magic.

 Nothing is impossible, it is impossible merely because we do not know how.

We have created and outlined 7 simple steps that you could follow and start doing daily to make a difference in your life, as well as impact the lives of people around you. We will share with you the first three steps geared to fortify you mentally and spiritually. Read More

Dear Leaders, Today is Not Your Day…

By | Change, Coaching, Food for thought, Leadership, NLP, Personal Development

Sorry Leaders, but today is just not your day. We will celebrate your day another time.

Today is EMPLOYEE APPRECIATION DAY! And it is important that you, as a leader, take some time and effort to show a little appreciation for your employees for all that they have done to propel the organisation forward.

In a recent study, 45% of the the people working in Singapore are unhappy in their job. 54% are disengaged, and 12% would choose to leave their job because they felt unappreciated at work.

With the need to constantly stay competitive in the industry, organisations are finding innovative ways to create a positive working environment and engage employees on a regular basis. Evidence has shown that when people are happy working in a job that they find meaningful and are appreciated for their contributions, it would result in higher productivity, enhanced creativity and better problem solving ability. At the same time, employees feel more connected with the company, thus reducing employee turnover.

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Happy Make a Friend Day!

By | ABNLP, Change, Food for thought, Live by Design, NLP, Personal Development

Do you still remember when you were a small kid and making friends was as easy as ABC? We could easily go up to another kid, start playing with each other and have lots of fun!

At this age, do you feel like it’s so tough to connect with another person? Do you feel awkward and uneasy when surrounded with strangers? Do you struggle to make a conversation with someone you just met? When a stranger says “Hi” to you, how do you respond? Do you say “Hi” back, or you start to wonder if this person has any ulterior motive for chatting you up?

I remember this incident very clearly.

A new family moved into my block on the 10th level. One day, as I took the lift down, the door opened on the 10th level and this new Caucasian neighbour walked in.

Neighbour: “Hi, how’s your day?”
Me: “Hey, it’s been great so far. Hope it gets even better. How’s yours?”

Door opened on 9th level and a middle-aged chinese lady walked in.

Neighbour: “Hi how’s your day?”

Lady completely ignored him and stared straight at the lift door, with her back to the guy. Guy turned to face me again and shrugged, completely puzzled. There was an awkward silence in the lift. When we reached the 1st level, the lady walked out immediately.

Neighbour: “I guess people here aren’t too used to receiving friendly greetings.”
Me: “We could have continued our conversation but I guess the atmosphere just now was a little awkward. Haha. Say ‘Hi” to me again next time, I’ll respond!”

We wished each other well for the day and parted ways.

What happen to being friendly? What made us start to doubt a sincere greeting & shun away from wishing each other well?

When was the last time you made a new friend?
When was the last time you tried connecting to someone new?

Make a new friend today!

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Which Master Are You?

By | ABNLP, Change, Coaching, Food for thought, Hypnosis, Live by Design, NLP, Personal Development

Are you a Master of Assumption, where you:
– Assume your partner, lover, or friends ignore you because of what you said?
– Assume people are angry at you when they do not reply or answer you?
– Assume your partner, lover, or friends thinks you are a burden when you regularly text or call them?
– Assume your partner or lover do not love you when they do not talk to you or reply you after “X” number of hours?
– Assume partner, lover, or friends are stressed and upset because of you?

Or

Are you a Master of Judgement, where you:
– Believe that you can never find the one while others have?
– Think you are always the one at fault when you are not?
– Judge yourself way more harshly in terms of your appearance?
– Believe other people uses you because they love you and need you?
– Consider yourself the ONLY one who can do the work or tasks given?

Or

Are you a Master of Negativity, who thinks:
– I am not good enough, therefore I did not get that job. It must be my fault.
– I cannot do it because I do not think I am capable enough.
– I can never accomplish what he/she have. I am not that smart.
– I am a failure.
– I do not know how to speak confidently so I rather keep quiet.
– I am afraid that people will reject me so I do not initiate or ask.
– Nervous, fidgety and anxious is my name and I can never get rid of them.

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Go the Extra Mile

By | Change, Food for thought, Live by Design, NLP, Personal Development


Go the extra mile.

That’s a quote I frequently hear when I was working in the service line. Now that I am out of the service industry, I have another perspectives on “Go the extra mile”. While many may link this quote to servicing of customers, I feel that this attitude is not limited to only the service industry. I believe this is a fabulous attitude to have, regardless of what you do.

“How you do something is how you do everything.”

And this quote pretty much sums up everything. When you are able to always put that little extra effort into anything you do, it could move mountains… for someone… maybe even yourself. Have you ever used gift wrapping services at the shopping centers during Christmas period? The service would be in overwhelming demand, and the staff would be handling the massive requests and wrapping presents non-stop? How did you feel when a retail staff made a small effort to create a nice folded design for your wrapping, or stick on that small ribbon which wasn’t inclusive? It made you feel good, didn’t it?

I was at a Branding workshop recently and we had hands-on practices to design our labels, tagline, secret formula presentation, etc. Very often we were put into small groups to present to each other and get feedback on how to improve. After a group presentation, I went up to a gentleman in my group. He was struggling to put his stuff together during his presentation. I gave him some suggestion on improving his label. The next day, I went back to him and shared with him a tagline I thought of. He was so touched and grateful. Of course, we became good friends after that. A friend, who attended the workshop with me, witnessed the interaction. She said “Hey, you could add this trait of yours to your label!” It then got me reflecting. No matter what I do, I always pride myself to make a little more effort… to go the extra mile! And that’s the reason why my customers and colleagues love me!

The Extra Mile Day was started, on 1 November 2009, to encourage people from all walks of life to simply live a fulfilling, self-directed lifestyle that does not constrain their potential, and that enables them to at least go the extra mile to achieve what they have always wanted.

Have you done justice to yourself? Have you gone the extra mile… made the extra effort to achieve what you want?

Happy Extra Mile Day!

Declutter your life – part 1

By | ABNLP, Addiction, Billy Kueek, Change, Coaching, Food for thought, Hypnosis, NLP, Personal Development, Success, Time Line Therapy

How many of us are clutter free? Or is it more likely that we are surrounded by clutter? How did that happen and why do we allow it to happen? And more importantly, how do we declutter.

Clutter stops us from moving ahead. Some of us hide behind the clutter. Some find comfort in it. Some just cannot decide what to get rid of so they end up getting rid of nothing. Whatever the reason, it is time to clear our lives of the ‘stuff’ that we have collected.

The stuff that I am referring to is not just physical things though that usually makes up a huge portion of our clutter.

“Clutter is not just physical stuff. It’s old ideas, toxic relationships and bad habits. Clutter is anything that does not support your better self.” – Eleanor Brownn

Type of Clutter that we may have:

  • Physical – the things that we have in our homes, our offices, our cars
  • Mental – negative thoughts, limiting beliefs
  • Emotional – negative emotions, toxic relationships
  • Behavioural – bad habits
  • Financial – unpaid bills, uncleared debts, unfixed tax papers, unsorted documents, unwritten wills
  • Virtual – old emails, unopened emails, old phone numbers and addresses, etc

What is it that stops us from decluttering?

Here are a few reasons that sound good (sound familiar anyone?)

  • Too much stuff so it becomes overwhelming
  • Don’t know where to start
  • Make a start but give up too soon
  • Cannot let go
    • Have emotional attachments
    • “but it seems such a waste…”
    • “well, I may need it one day’
  • Cannot decide
  • Lack of awareness or in denial – emotional clutter
  • Not ready to face the problems – financial clutter

Let’s face it. We keep things. Just in case. That is the most common reason given for the things we have, just in case we need it, just in case it contains important information, just in case someone else needs it. And yet, if we are truly honest about it, that Just in Case moment has never arisen!

In our next posts, we will look into how to start decluttering and the benefits of decluttering.

To find out about coaching services or training to help you declutter emotional, mental and behavioural clutter, go to BillyKueek.com  or email office@BillyKueek.com.