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Hanging Tough

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Note from Dr Billy – Recent events have led me to reminisce, reflect and re-focus on life. And as I pondered, I remembered this one article entitled “The Cycle of Grief” that was published in the Straits Times some time ago, and I feel it’s timely to share it now.

Yet again, we are subjected to unpredictable economic conditions. Perhaps unpredictable is not the word as there have been many warning signs before we confirmed that we are in a technical recession.

Business process re-engineering, cost cutting and retrenchment are terms that enjoyed much publicity during these difficult times.

Therefore, in many people’s mind, the thoughts are “What do we do?” and “What happens if…?

Being out of a job is a catastrophic experience for many of us and this experience can be mentally, physically and emotionally harmful for some people.

Losing the lifeline can be a very stressful experience. As much as these are natural reactions, there are responses that one can adopt. These will help us to move on with our lives positively.

Perhaps a simple example would help you recall a time when you had to face challenges and rise upon them.

In my workshops on change management, I sometimes start by getting people to change seats and then I take a poll. Not surprisingly, I will learn that most people resist the idea at first (well, some admitted that they detest it while the majority indicated a little resistance).

My next question however, also generates a unanimous answer: As much as we dislike change and getting out of our comfort zone, we also settle in the new environment or situation very quickly.

We all have the natural ability to adapt to change and challenges. Some rise to it while others falter.

 

The Cycle of Grief
We experience a cycle of grief when we lose our jobs. Michael Farr, author of “The Quick Job Search“, proposes that we go through the grief in stages, namely shock, denial, anger or shame, depression and finally acceptance.

Shock occurs when we are surprised by the bad news and when the dreadful happens to us. Denial comes next when we cannot come to terms with the loss. Anger and shame then crop up resulting in us justifying, blaming and finger pointing.

Unfortunately, our society is a judgmental one that is quite unforgiving and that intensifies the feelings of anger and shame.

After some time, depression sets in and finally, we accept the reality and then summon the energy and motivation to move ahead.

Understandably, different people have different timeframes to reach the desired state of acceptance where we begin anew and seek a new job or a new area of interest to pursue our career.

The most important thing at this juncture is to understand the stages that we go through inevitably and get out of it fast. The sooner we deal with it, the faster we accept reality and the earlier we move on. Remember, there is a difference between failing and being a failure.

 

Let’s move on
The pain-pleasure principle of motivation states that those motivated by pain will move faster in these tough times but those motivated by pleasure can take time off to visualise a positive future state and create the urge to surge ahead.

Coaching Children for Success

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How many of us had grand plans when we were younger – wanting to run a major corporation, be the best tennis player in the world, become President – and yet, how many of us actually see our plans turn into reality? What stopped us from achieving them? And more importantly, can we do anything about it?

There are also those who do achieve their goals and are very successful and still have this feeling of emptiness within themselves, that there is something missing.

If you feel that there is something holding you back from becoming the person you were meant to be, then you should speak to a coach who will help you discover what is truly important to you, what is the purpose you so desperately seek yet did not know it was missing and help you live a rich and full life.

Coaching is a form of personal development where the coach and the client work closely together to help the client achieve their goals. Coaching is applied in many areas of life, from sports to business to personal, depending on the client’s needs.

The coaching relationship is a special one. In order for it to work, you must first be prepared to work on whatever problems may arise. Secondly, you must be open to sharing as it is by being open that the coach is able to discover the root of the problem and therefore address the issue. The coach has been professionally trained and is the best person to help you so let him do his job. There have been times when we see clients telling coaches what they think the problem is and how the coach should help them.

Different types of coaching

Life coaching – the coach facilitates the client’s growth in work and also in personal life.

Executive coaching – usually client is senior management or higher and the coach works on business related issues as well as on client’s personal development with the focus on achieving better business performance and results.

Parent coaching – to help the client improve their parenting skills and help their children lead happy, balanced lives.

Sports coaching – coaching the client to improve and develop their sports skills. The coach is not necessarily a sports trainer, but rather one who focuses on the client’s mindset, to think like a winner.

Depending on the client’s specific needs, there are many more forms of coaching that are available.  Billy Kueek International certifies Impact System© coaches, in our Live By Design Practitioner Certification Training, who use a combination of NLP, Time Line Therapy™, Hypnotherapy and Emotional Intelligence to help their clients in a variety of areas.

NLP and Parenting

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As a parent, were there times when you were frustrated because you could not help your child in times of need? Are you equipped with the right tools and knowledge to guide your child? What skills can you develop or learn in order to be your child’s best coach and to be the best parent you can be?

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) offers the most powerful tools to improve the chances of success in life. Prominent success coach Anthony Robbins, world-class tennis player Andre Agassi and award-winning TV host Oprah Winfrey are all practitioners of NLP.

Think of NLP as a toolbox for life. It can help you to help your child set the right goals in the right way and discover their passion and purpose in life. NLP can help to create powerful beliefs that will help your child achieve, enhance their learning strategies and generate positive behaviours.

NLP is whatever works on a daily basis. By understanding your child better – how he thinks, how he interprets information, how he learns – parents will be able to achieve outstanding results.

Apart from helping your child, you will also learn techniques to manage your own state better, to liberate yourself from limiting beliefs, and how to tap on your inner wisdom for problem resolution.

An Investment For Life

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How much is your life worth?

When you are healthy, you may not be willing to pay much for medical care.  However, for someone who is sick, they would pay any amount to get better.  The value of something is based on what someone will pay for it.

Most of us buy life insurance because, in the event something happens to us, our family members will receive the insurance money, which is substantially higher than what was paid.  However, that usually means the insured is no longer around (or is incapacitated).

Here’s the thing though – When you invest in the Live By Design Practitioner program, you have the opportunity to change your life forever.

As an accountant would explain it – let’s say the program costs USD 3,000.  And let’s say you are now 30 years old, so we estimate you will be working for the next 30 years.  If you are able to change your life today, the investment of USD3,000 spread over 30 years is only USD 100 per year, or about USD 8 per month, or a mere USD 2 per week, or – and this will blow your mind – less than 30 cents per day!

Imagine – your investment in yourself, in improving, enhancing and bettering yourself, is less than the cost of a cup of coffee per day.

That is probably the best investment you are going to make. One that starts paying ‘dividends’ immediately, where you and your family members and friends will benefit, rather than wait for something to happen to claim the insurance.  And you will surely continue to benefit for the rest of your life.  The return on your investment will be many times greater than the money you pay and you will reap the rewards every day.

So when someone asks me, why they should pay to join our program, I ask them how much their life is worth.

From the desk of Dr Billy Kueek

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A great big HELLO to everyone!

How time flies by! It seems like I was just wishing all of you Happy New Year yesterday, when in fact we’re already a month into 2013!

So how was your January 2013? How many of you started it by making new year resolutions? If you did so by setting S.M.A.R.T. goals and are well on your way to realizing them, then congratulations on your tenacity & determination, and I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors!

Sometimes though, resolutions can be a hit-and-miss affair if it’s more of a ‘wish’ list. As you think of the year ahead, what do you see yourself achieving? What are you thinking? How do you feel? The good news is, with the right skills, you can make that wish list into a YES list!

We’ve got a fantastic line-up of courses planned for the whole year and there’s bound to be one (or more) that is suitable for your needs & schedule. In response to growing demand for specialized NLP programs which focus on specific topics, we have some very exciting programs for the corporate market, in particular Applied NLP in Sales. This program is based on my book Using Psychological Techniques in Selling. Whether you are selling products, services or simply yourself, this program promises potential, profits and power-packed breakthroughs.

Another one that I’m very excited about is our Live By Design Practitioner program. This 8-day program is very dear to me as it gives me the opportunity to personally know the participants. Emotional baggage, inner conflicts, phobias, limiting beliefs… all removed, released & resolved! Seeing participants achieve such tremendous breakthroughs certainly motivates us even more to continue doing what we do, transforming people inspiring lives.

For those who wish to take their learning further, we have the Live By Design Master Practitioner program. For those who are determined about becoming a trainer, we have the NLP Trainers’ Training that is certified by ABNLP (American Board of NLP) and internationally recognized. So if you think about it, when you take all 3 programs this year, by the end of 2013 you will become a full-fledged NLP Trainer! How awesome is that!

Did you know that we are the only training company in the region which offers all this training, especially at the Trainer level, and also the only company in the region with two NLP Master Trainers? I would also like to humbly announce that as of now, I’m the only NLP Master Trainer certified by both ABNLP and NLP University, plus I have the honor of being the first Hypnotherapy Master Trainer in South-East Asia.

Such accomplishments would not have been possible without your constant support. I thank each and everyone one of you for joining me on life’s great journey. Now let us all make 2013 EXCEPTIONAL, EXCITING & EXTRAORDINARY!

Live By Design Practitioner Certification Training
(NLP, Time Line Therapy™, Hypnotherapy and Impact System© Coaching)
16 – 23 March 2013, Billy Kueek International Office Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

Live By Design Practitioner Certification Training
(NLP, Time Line Therapy™, Hypnotherapy and Impact System© Coaching)
13 – 20 April 2013, Singapore

Using Psychological Techniques In Selling
24 – 25 April 2013, Billy Kueek International Office Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

NLP Associate Training
27 – 28 April 2013, Billy Kueek International Office Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

Live By Design Master Practitioner Certification Training
17 – 31 August 2013, Singapore

NLP Trainers’ Training
21 – 30 November 2013, Billy Kueek International Office Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia

Postponing Your Success

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If I were to offer you a million dollars and gave you the option of taking the money now or in three years’ time, I suspect most of you would take it now.  Yet, when it comes to changing their lives for the better, a common response is, “Wait and see first.”

My question is, what are you waiting for?  How many of us are delaying or postponing the opportunity to have an even greater life?  Of course your life could be great right now but would you like it to be even better?  You see, if you were to offer someone money, even if they already had a lot of it, chances are they would take it now.

Success is not always in monetary terms.  And perhaps therein lies the problem.  When it is difficult to be quantified or is not tangible, we are less certain.  So in response to whether you want a better life, we are prepared to wait.  Could it be that we enjoy the pain of whatever is bugging us and until the pain is great enough, we are not likely to do anything about it?The choice is yours – Success Now or Later?

President Obama’s second term – the influencing power of words

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As President Obama is sworn into his second term as President of the United States, I thought this would be a good time to briefly mention how NLP and Hypnosis is used in our daily lives without us even knowing most of the time.  From advertisements to the media, from politicians to salesmen, and our own parents could have used hypnotic language patterns and linguistic patterns in their communication, knowingly or unknowingly.

Both Presidents Obama and Clinton have a team of advisors which include NLP Master Practitioners who review their speeches to ensure that they include the appropriate linguistics to resonate with their audiences.  In business, NLP can certainly help in communication during negotiations in order to influence the listener and get the message across.

Advertisements use NLP Linguistics to influence your buying habits.  For example, the ad may read like this – ‘buying this washing powder means you love your family’. In NLP, this is called a context reframe because if you think about it, how would using a particular washing powder mean that you love your family.  But that is exactly what the message implies.

Or when a salesman repeatedly tells you ‘by now’ in his sales patter, what he is really saying to you is ‘buy now’.  We call this embedded command where the instruction or command is embedded into a sentence so that the unconscious mind picks it up.

So when you think about it, everyone and anyone is able to influence others by being more conscious and aware of the word choices used.  For the next few days, try focusing on the words others & yourself use and listen out for any hypnotic language or linguistic patterns in their communication. You may be surprised just how often it pops up!

 

Living By Design

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“If only I had learnt this 20 years ago …” is one of the most common feedback I get from participants after they graduate from our Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy and Hypnotherapy Practitioner training program  (also known as Live by Design).  For one young man, he certainly did.

Zachary Tan was just 16+ years old when his mother enrolled him for our Practitioner training.  Having faced some medical issues, Zachary was (like many 16 year olds) busy enjoying life, not too keen on focusing on studies, not very motivated to do much.  His parents had heard about NLP and decided that it was worth investing in the program for their eldest son.  So Zachary joined our program in January 2012 and after 8 days, he became the youngest certified NLP Practitioner in Singapore and Malaysia!

What was more important is that he realised the power of what he had learned and wanted to apply his new-found knowledge to help his friends (and at the same time, start earning some money to pay for his Master Practitioner training).  By then, Zachary had already decided that he was going to become a Master Practitioner, in August 2013.  He was focused on passing his exams and doing well in school so that he could become a role model for other teenagers and help them through coaching.

However, the story does not end there.  In October 2012, Zachary decided he did not want to delay his learning any further and rather than wait till August 2013, he enrolled for the November 2012 Master Practitioner training.  On 1 December 2012, at the tender age of 17 years and 4 months, Zachary Tan became one of the youngest certified NLP Master Practitioners in the world.  During the 15-day program, he worked with fellow participants, some of whom were many years older than him and they commented on his maturity, understanding and grasp of the subject matter and his professionalism as a coach.  He certainly held his own, in spite of his age and limited life experiences.

My team and I are proud of all our graduates, and especially delighted for Zachary for he has all the tools at his disposal and can live his life by design.  To learn NLP at his age, he has an even brighter future and we wish him every success!  Congratulations Zachary Tan!  And who knows, he may yet become the youngest NLP Trainer in Asia.

 

NLP can change me

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… and it did!

This is an email I received from one of my graduates who attended our Live By Design Certification Training and was certified as NLP and Time Line Therapy(TM) Practitioner, Professional Hypnotherapist and Impact System(c) Coach which I wanted to share.

Dear Billy,

I really had to write to you to thank you and your team for changing my life.  Having completed your LBD program, I have come home a new person who is able to face life with renewed energy and I am feeling so positive about what lies ahead.

I must admit that when I attended your preview session and heard you talk about NLP and Hypnotherapy, I was hesitant.  So many thoughts ran through my head at that time.  Was it really possible that you can achieve so much in 8 days?  Surely there must be a catch.

Then I worried about what the ‘new me’ would be like.  I thought that I would change and my friends would not know me, or maybe like the new me.  And would I lose my identity if I changed.  All these worries, all these questions and I am sure I am not the only person who has these concerns.

All I can say now is that YES I did change, in just 8 days and I love the new me.  My family members and my friends do as well.  They say that they see me smiling so much now and that I have a glow and they are happy for me.  My worries were unfounded and I am glad I ignored them and came for the program.

Dealing with issues that I did not even know existed because they were deeply locked in my unconscious mind, working on minor blockages that were holding me back and just letting go of emotional baggage and negativity – all this has lightened my load.  I feel so free and light now.  I am so grateful to my fellow participant who worked as my coach in the Breakthrough session.  Somehow, she just knew what questions to ask to get to my problems and dealt with them professionally.

The program is worth every cent I paid.. a worthwhile investment in myself.  Thank you for your wonderful program.  It is reassuring to know that there are people like you and your team who care about others and truly wish to make a difference to others.

Yes, NLP changed me, for the better!  Thank you, Billy!

With Gratitude,

Your graduate

(The name has been withheld at the request of the graduate)

The Difference That Makes The Difference

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Are all NLP (Neur0-Linguistic Programming) trainers the same?

Are all NLP certification programs the same?

How do you decide which program is suitable and which trainer to select?

What is the difference between your program and those offered by other trainers?

Why should I choose you over other trainers/programs?

These are just some of the questions that I am asked by participants at our forums and workshops.  Of course you may think that since Billy Kueek International runs NLP training, then I would naturally recommend our programs.  And you would be right. Because I believe in what we offer, in our quality of training and most importantly, I believe in the value of our programs.  To see someone finish our program feeling absolutely positive about life, so much so that they can’t stop smiling or feeling happy … the feeling I get from witnessing that is priceless.

However, in order to help you make an informed decision on what works best for you, allow me to share with you how NLP certification works.

First of all, find out about the person(s) who will be giving the training.  What are his or her credentials?  Which Board or Institute are they certified by?  And if so, are they certified as Practitioner or Trainer?

All our NLP graduates are certified under the American Board of NLP (ABNLP) which is the largest NLP certifying body in the world, with more than 500 institutes and 30,000 members worldwide.

 

 

In NLP, the levels of certification are as follows:

  • Practitioner
  • Master Practitioner
  • Trainer
  • Master Trainer

Trainers certify Practitioners and Master Practitioners.  Master Trainers certify Trainers, Master Practitioners and Practitioners.  Do ask and get more information.

Then, do also check out the certifying body.  How credible is it?  How many members does it have and who are the principals behind it?  If you can, talk to some of their members or graduates to find out more about their certification.

As for which trainer to select, you may wish to attend several previews and talk to the trainers and ask lots of questions.  Do not enroll until you are satisfied that the training is what you want.

Find out what support they provide after the training is complete.  Do they offer regular classes to revise topics or teach new topics?  Are the trainers contactable after the training if you have questions or need help or advice?

Billy Kueek International is proud of our track record.  Our graduates are able to keep in touch with each other and with the trainers via email, Facebook, etc and we run regular Skills Enhancement Trainings (SETs) where graduates can meet up to review NLP techniques and practice what they have learned.

Graduates can also come back to our programs for reskilling at a nominal fee (to relearn the entire program) or apply to be a coaching assistant and help the new students in their learning.

I am the only NLP Master Trainer in the region certified by both ABNLP and NLP University whilst Billy Kueek International is the only training company in South East Asia with 2 NLP Master Trainers, Hypnotherapy Master Trainer and Trainers within the company.  My team and I are dedicated to Transforming People, Inspiring Lives and it is evident from the feedback we get from our graduates.

If you would like to find out more about us, do visit us at www.BillyKueek.com or send us an email to Office@BillyKueek.com.