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Lowell Wang

Happy International Evaluate Your Life Day!

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Where do you measure up?
How are you performing in the different aspects of your life now?
Do you feel balanced, or have you been making sacrifices on certain parts of your life?

Evaluate Your Life Day was created to encourage people to check out what’s going on in their lives, and to set things on the proper course.

I personally like to use the Wheel of Life as a regular check on how I am performing in different aspects of my life. As much as all of us are striving to achieve our dreams, we sometimes lose track of our vision and get ourselves a little rugged up. I find this tool very useful in evaluating if I might be short changing certain aspects of my life to fulfill another.

It’s mid October now. Just another 2 more months till 2018 ends. This may be a good time to evaluate your life!

Are you living your Life by Design, or by default?

 

Living Free – Make the Right Choice

By | ABNLP, Change, Coaching, Hypnosis, Live by Design, NLP, Personal Development, Time Line Therapy, Training

Watching “The Greatest Showman” triggered many thoughts and stirred many emotions within me. With the world advancing so rapidly and making great improvements to human lives, yet we are still encountering natural disasters, illnesses and physical/mental defects. While many claimed to be saintly and aspire to be a great person, it is with no doubts that many also still bears prejudices and discrimination for people who are different. Thus when one stands out differently, he or she seemed to be the common target for random attacks in one way or another.

I remember when I was a kid, I was, on many occasions, called “Weird“. Yes, physically and mentally I am normal; I just frequently have uncommon thoughts that defy the normality of the social circle around me. Sometimes I asked the weirdest questions, challenged the ancient norms, and talked about “dreams” that no one ever thought about. Do I feel upset? Was I shaken? Yes, of course! For I am also a human who feels. Slowly I learnt to be selective in sharing my thoughts. I only shared with people who have an open mind, who are willing to explore beyond, and dare to challenge the unknown. As such, one can only guess… I don’t really have many friends. Good friends… RARE! Did I try to conform so that I fit in? Yes, of course again! I went through Education, the usual career path, the ever-damned rat race, and the sickening office politics at work.

So what happened to me? With the values I hold within me, the experiences I went through and the beliefs that were built or inculcated into me, I developed into a person who is independent and surrounded by a tall & thick wall. With very few friends and little support, I relied mainly on myself to become “successful”. I, sometimes, set unrealistic expectations on myself trying to achieve the ridiculous expectations of others. My life seemed to go just round and round in circles with no aim. I worked hard (maybe too hard). I earned money that I never had time to spend, cos I was always working late into the weekday nights, and during the weekends I just wanted to crash on my bed eternally (not to mention I brought work home over the weekends too). Eventually I felt like a walking zombie just living each day out. I was aimless, lost, unmotivated, frustrated, and tired; and my health was taking a toil on me.

In 2015, I made a major breakthrough in my life. I felt lifeless and totally angry. And one day, after experiencing a major trigger at work, I decided Enough is Enough! I needed help and guidance, and that’s when I re-explored the notion of learning Neuro-Linguistics Programming (NLP). Against everyone’s advice, I quit my job. Everyone asked me to reconsider and just stay on the “safe” track, so that as I, at least, would receive a steady flow of income and be able to maintain my existing lifestyle. But what “lifestyle” was I having when I don’t even have a life?! I moved on and never look back upon my old life ever again.

Since then I started my journey on NLP as an inquisitive explorer, then a Practitioner to a Master Practitioner, and I am now a NLP Trainer myself. I remember on Day 3 of my NLP Practitioner Training, I was taught to use Perceptual Position to help resolve a conflict with someone whom I would not be able to resolve face-to-face. During the exercise, I used it to resolve my conflict with my ex-boss whom I totally despised. After the exercise, my frustration for my ex-boss seemed to just dissipate; and I texted my ex-colleague to inform that I forgave my ex-boss and I was not angry with him anymore. Isn’t that just amazing?! By forgiving my ex-boss and letting go of the anger within me, a new and better version of myself emerged. I became happier and more care-free. What NLP has taught me is to always have an open perspectives and view matters from all angles. It also helped me to develop self awareness, take personal responsibility for my life, and sharpened my self-leadership.

The Map is not the Territory. Respect for the Other Person’s Model of the World.
~ NLP Presuppositions

Now, I conduct Corporate Training to empower people to advance in their career, and offer coaching services to those who desire to achieve personal breakthroughs in their personal life or career. And I am very happy doing what I am doing now. In line with our company’s vision, “Transforming People, Inspiring Lives“, I am glad to be working with a team of like-minded people who derive satisfaction out of inspiring and empowering people, so that they can achieve success and be happy.

When I meet up with my friends and ex-colleagues, very often I feel a lot of dissatisfaction, frustrations, anger, weariness from them regarding their work. I hear a lot of whining that lead to nothing:- No Change. No Actions. While they are unhappy, it seemed the discomfort is not painful enough to get them out of the system. When I asked why they want to remain where they are, the usual answer that returns is “No choice“. Yet no choice is also a choice. A choice that you made to remain stuck in the existing wretch moment. Everyone has choices. In fact, MANY!

We are all shaped and a result of our choices. And how we make our choices is often based on the values and beliefs that influence us. Following the TFAR model, our Thoughts create Feelings in us that translate into Actions, thus producing the Results. And all we need is to just control that first thought to achieve the desired result we want.

Everyone of us is born a winner, gifted with our own talents, and slated for success in our own ways. When you follow your heart’s true desire, and be led by your highest purpose, you will find the meaning of your life and be happy. All of us deserves to be happy. We are not born to work non stop and suffer. We are born to live and experience. Live in the moment. Remember the time when you were a kid; and you were fearless and filled with dreams and imaginations. Success is in all of us. The question is “How much do you want it to manifest in your life? And what are you willing to do/change to see it happen in real?

We create our own problems; and yet we are the solutions to our problems.
We are always looking for more resources (time, money, support. etc), yet we are the best asset we have.
We are always battling in life and career, and we are the best weapon on hand.
We are always looking for the best leader to guide us, yet it is self leadership that leads us the best.

Now… What do you really want in your life? What choices would you make?

Smile & the Whole World Smiles with You!

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SMILE & the Whole World Smiles with You!
Did you know SMILING is contagious?
 
BENEFITS of SMILING:
1. Shifts you out of a negative perspective & keeps you positive
2. Makes you look more attractive, likeable & younger
3. Increases productivity
4. Lengthens your life by reducing stress
5. Encourages trust & build relationships
 
Nothing makes me happier than seeing a big smile on the face of the people I love.
 
Start releasing those endorphins!
Spread HAPPINESS today!
Flash your SMILE!

 

Focus on What’s Important

By | ABNLP, Change, Coaching, Hypnosis, NLP, Personal Development, Time Line Therapy, Training

Personal sharing of Jessica (24 years old) on her experience during a certification program conducted by Billy Kueek International

 

 

“Life is like a camera,
Capture the good times,
Develop from the negatives
And if things don’t work out,
Take another shot.

 

 

 

 

 

This quote perfectly sums up my LBD (Live By Design) journey organized by Billy Kueek International (BKI). LBD is short for Live By Design and not by default, a program which has benefitted me tremendously as it shows me how to live my life according to my own principles and values, and not according to other people’s expectations. In our society or culture, there are no shortages of cases where people, friends and family members “recommend” how we should live our life, what work or job we should pursue, what course we should study, what to eat… and the list goes on. I am pretty sure all of us to do it – whether consciously or unconsciously – and I have had my fair share of being on the receiving end of these incidences as well while growing up.

In a nutshell, I became obsessed with how other people viewed me, or what they thought of me, and hence I became pessimistic. I was frequently angry, irritated and had lots of negative thoughts in my head. I became withdrawn, fearful of talking to people or strangers – fearful of them judging me and my appearance. I even dreaded going to parties and social gatherings because I would panic, thinking “What if someone starts talking to me, and then compares me with my sibling (twin sister)?”

The LBD program is an 9-day certification program that incorporates Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Time Line Therapy™ (TLT), Hypnotherapy and NLP Coaching. It equips you with the knowledge and skills to resolve personal blockages, remove limiting beliefs and negative baggage and be able to Live life By Design.

At first, I was skeptical about joining the program, as I did not fully believe it could help me with my personal issues. Since NLP is the study of human behaviour, and of modelling excellence and changing your mindset to be more positive, I thought to myself: “Hey, in that case I can do it myself as it’s my mind”. Having graduated with a degree in Psychology, I thought I was more than equipped to change my own thinking, as and when I wanted to. It turned out, I was totally wrong about that!

In fact, I know for sure that my mindset has totally changed because of the program. I realized that I needed that extra push, motivation and encouragement to help me to solve my insecurities, issues and self-esteem. I could sense myself changing and becoming a totally different person during the program. I started coming out from my shell and am now a much friendlier, happier and contented person. Beyond that, the program taught me to be more positive and see things not just from only one perspective, but from others’ point of view as well. I learnt skills on how to reframe my thinking whenever I heard or saw things I disliked, and how to instantly access my positive feelings whenever I could feel any negativity start within me.

This course, unlike any other programs I know, included many practical exercises where we put knowledge into practice right away. The learning is in the doing. Every morning, all the participants would be given time to practise with others and help each other get the breakthrough we needed. The techniques taught and shared by the trainer can be used to individually or collectively to overcome and eliminate any minor or major issues that we have. The resulting effects of the exercises not only helped us to solidify our learning, it also helped me to better understand my pressing issues. The sense of accomplishment I felt when I managed to assist others and solve their issues… that is a feeling money cannot buy – priceless.

One of the most unforgettable experiences from this program was when all the participants engaged in a one-to-one coaching session. I was paired up with one of the participants and we both took turns to be the client and the coach for each other, and shared what issues we would like to work on. My ‘client’ had feelings of guilt in him because of decisions he made in his past relationships which resulted in breakups or tragic endings. For the past ten years, he had been holding on to this feeling, and slowly became more withdrawn and fearful of making a commitment in all his relationships. I managed to help him to release his guilt and alleviate the negativity; and he finally broke through his own mental blockages and felt so relieved. I felt really happy and thrilled that I was able to be someone’s ‘comforter’ and problem solver.

Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you respond to it. I have learnt to keep my focus on staying positive and overcoming my overthinking. The program has really changed me for the better, transforming me into a more positive, assertive and confident person.

They say we are what we are, but we don’t have to be.

Activate your resources now and Live By Design, Not By Default.

If you would like to join us for learning or a transformational journey, please call us at +65 8388 0500 (Singapore) or +6012 434 9500/ +6012 649 6500 (Malaysia), or email Office@BillyKueek.com for more details.